Pleasant Home UMC
Friday, July 29, 2016
Open Hearts. Open Minds. Open Doors.
September through May
Sunday Service 10:30 a.m.
Hope you can join us!
From the Pastor’s Desk...
When I first arrived here in the USA, it was a journey not only of crossing a great distance but also of culture and life. At the outset, I felt like a fish thrown out of the water because of the differences of cultures. In the island of Tonga everything was easy and life was simple. Everyone had his/her own home and one didn’t have to make mortgage payments as we do here in the States. The people used to walk everywhere they wanted to go, and they didn’t have to rely on cars. Life was simple and we dealt with life situations as they came. Most people just went with the flow rather than setting goals and striving to accomplish certain tasks. For example, we would get up in the morning and someone would come into our house and say, “Hey, let’s go to beach and swim,” and we would go without any hesitance. We didn’t have a whole lot of specific tasks to follow as we do here in the States.
On the other hand, I’ve learned that life here in the USA is much more focused on specifics and goal oriented. People set goals and they try to accomplish them. They challenge themselves to achieve more in life which leads to an unfulfilled life. They end up doing whatever it takes to accomplish things, but often they never quite fulfill their God given purpose. They would end up doing something that they were not called to do. These people would achieve a lot, but they are not happy which leads them to addictions, depressions and sadly, some of them commit suicide. This constant pressure leads them to pursue an unfulfilled life. Secondly, some people would follow other people’s dreams and never really live their own dreams. They want to be just like the person next door or the singer they see on the TV and never live and follow their own purpose in life. They are living someone else’s dream which lead to an unfulfilled life. Thirdly, some people get distracted by their responsibilities and eventually they would give up and do whatever is necessary to survive. They are living for themselves because they are trying to accomplish their dreams. They are not bothered to follow the way of God because of their ignorance and the multiple worldly distractions.
Where is God’s purpose in our lives? Are we following God’s way? Are we doing God’s purpose in our church? Or, are we following other people’s advice? Are we just going with the flow? Where are we as a church? As I reflected on these questions, a verse came into my mind, “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You” Isaiah 16:3. When we follow God’s ways, our minds are steadfast and firmly fixed on God’s purpose for our lives. When we do this, the Bible tells us that we are going to experience God’s peace. Thereby, we must learn to trust in God and follow His direction in our journey. Our minds are subject to change and we must be firm in our belief, and determined to fulfill God’s purpose. Why should we do this? I believe we should strive to have perfect peace in everything we do regardless of what comes in our way. When we are experiencing peace in our lives, it is a good sign that we are following God’s way. It comes when we learn to completely put our trust in God. The Book of James tells us that “a double minded man is unstable in all his ways” James 1:5. Thereby, we can’t go around in our lives as a man or woman of God with two minds. A steadfast mind is necessary in order to function in God’s perfect peace. We can have a steadfast mind if we keep our minds on God and His principles. As we continue our journey, we must learn to stay focused on following God’s ways in our lives. Hence, we can bring transformation into people’s lives here at our church. It will produce perfect peace, victory and bring fulfillment into our lives and help us to serve the purpose of God in our church.
From the Pastor’s Desk... As I was reflected on the importance of the role of fathers in a family, I think about how Jesus used to warn his disciples about the scribes and the Pharisees: “Therefore whatever they tell you to observe, that observe and do, but do not do according to their works; for they say, and do not do.” Matthew 23: 3 This passage tells me about the importance of not only the fathers’ words but also our actions. Our words must meet the way we act in order to influence our children and leave a lasting legacy of our faith with them. Often times, we (fathers) forget that our children are not only listening to our words but also watching everything we do. Paul says to his spiritual children in 1 Corinthians 11:1: “Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.” If we want to leave a lasting legacy to our children, we(fathers) must live out our faith. Our role is important in our family and thus, our words must match our actions. We read in Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Too often, we forget the words our fathers had said to us but we remember their actions.
My father was the man of many words. He was a great public speaker and a lot of people had complemented about his ability to speak in public. They used to call him the Tongan dictionary because of his ability to pick the right words to convey his points. However, I am willing to bet that if I ask any of these people whether they remember any of his powerful speeches, most likely they won’t remember them. On the other hand, if I ask them whether they remember his actions perhaps, some of them may be able to describe about something that he had done. In addition, I remember more about his actions then what he used to say to me. I’ll share one example: many years I’ve always wondered why my Dad never go remarried. Well, his friends and colleagues were telling him to get remarried and have more kids, but he did not. He was young enough to get remarried, but he had chosen not to get remarried for many years. He never talked to me about why he had chosen not to get remarried, but I found out a couple of years after he died. Apparently, he didn’t want anybody to come into our family and mistreat me. This is just one example from many fond memories I have of him and his actions have embedded in my memory. He had sacrificed his own need for me so that I can have a better life. He was not only a provider for our family, but he made sure that I was safe emotionally and that’s how he showed his love for me. I believe we all want to leave a lasting
legacy with our children, and it takes sacrifice. We need to sacrifice our own need for the betterment of our children. Our children need to see our love through actions! I am also reminded of this truth, and I’m sure our children and spouses will appreciate it. It is a legacy that will outlast us.
There are three months out of the year that I take some time to reflect on the importance of relationships. During valentine day in February, I not only think about the importance of a covenant relationship between a husband and wife but also I think about various types of relationships. Another special day that I reflect about the importance of relationships is Mother’s Day. On this particular day, I think about the importance of the role of a mother in a family. It is a time we think about the importance of a mother and child relationships. Thirdly, when it is time for my anniversary, I reflect on my relationship with my wife. A wife’s role in a family is different from a mother’s role. However, I’d like to elaborate on the role of a mother in a family. Let me share what I’ve learned over the years about the role of a mother in a family. Although I did not grow up with my biological mother, God has blessed me with a wonderful person who gave me all the love that I needed when I was a child. So, whether you are adopted or growing up with biological parents, God has blessed most of us in this way.
As I reflected about mother’s day, here are the things that comes into my mind: A mother does not feel tired when she hears her child crying in the middle of the night; when I am sad and couldn’t go to sleep, she would comfort me with her presence; when I am hungry even in the middle of the night, she would get up and make me food; she makes sure that I am warm in those cold nights; she makes sure that I am well taking care of and she would protect me; she makes sure that I have nice clothes to wear to school; she does laundry, fix breakfast, lunch and dinner when she’s at home; when I am scared in the middle of night, she would hug me and make me feel at ease; when other people put me down, she would tell me how smart I am and give me words of encouragement; when someone hurts me, she would make sure that I feel love; when I am lonely, she would comfort me; a mother would go an extra mile to show you her love.
A mother’s love describes how much God loves us! God is longing for us to know how much He loves us. In every moment, God wants to comfort us, and provides a way for us to have a better life. God comforts us when we are feeling down; God works tirelessly to make sure that we know about His love. A mother’s love is indescribable! A mother wants the best for their children and all they want is a little bit of love in return. A healthy mother wants nothing from her kid/s other than to love her back. On the other hand, God’s love is unconditional. God doesn’t want anything from us other than to love Him back. However, too often we forget a mother’s love because we get distracted by our own goals and dreams. Well, God feels the same way when we don’t consider His guidance in our lives. God wants us to remember that He is the source of all good things and He wants to be a part of our lives.
God is the source of our joy, peace and love etc. God has blessed us in so many ways. God has provided for us resources to make a living over the years and He has been taking care us. However, we forget that in order to develop a relationship, we must love God in return. Relationships are not one sided, it is not just God loving us, but we must love Him in return to complete and define a good relationship. “Can a woman forget her nursing child and have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, but I will not forget you.” Isaiah 49:15 God will never forget His own. Let us rejoice by singing this song: “Jesus loves me, this I know, for the Bible tells me so.” God loves you always and what a wonderful song to remember and keep in our heart.
Roger Simms was trying to get home after being discharged from the army on May 7th. Roger was eager to get home right away not only to see his family but also due to his suitcase that was too heavy for the journey. He wanted to get home and have some rest. Finally, he saw a light flashing on his way and it was a brand new Cadillac. He lost all hope because he never thought someone who drives a Cadillac would stop for a hitchhiker. However, the Cadillac stopped and the driver was Mr. Hanover, a business owner on his way to Chicago.
Mr. Hanover: “Going home for keeps?”
Roger: “Sure am.”
Mr. Hanover: “Well, you’re in luck if you’re going to
Roger: “Not quite that far. Do you live in Chicago?
Mr. Hanover: “I have a business there. My name is
As they continued towards Chicago, Roger felt God urging him to share his faith with Mr. Hanover. However,he did not want to offend the business man, because he was afraid that the business man might kick him out of the car. When they were close to his home, Roger finally decided to share his faith.
“Mr. Hanover, I would like to talk to you about something very important.” Roger said.
He explained to him about the way of salvation and he asked Mr. Hanover if he would like to receive Christ as his Lord and Savior. To his amazement, Mr. Hanover pulled over to the side of the road, bowed his head and received Christ into his life.
He said, “This the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.”
Shortly afterwards, he dropped Roger at his house and he continued on his journey to Chicago which was about another hours drive. Five years later, while preparing for a business trip to Chicago, Roger came across the gold-embossed business card Mr. Hanover had given him. When he arrived in Chicago he decided to look up Hanover Enterprises and found it
to be located in a skyscraper downtown. When he asked the receptionist if he could see Mt. Hanover, she said: “No, but his wife is here.”
“You knew my husband?” the woman in her 50’s asked.
Roger explained that her husband had given him a ride and how he’d led him to Christ.”Mr. Hanover, I explained the gospel. He pulled over to the side of the road and wept against the steering wheel. He gave his life to Christ that day.”
“Can you tell when that was?” She asked.
“It was May 7th, five years ago, the day I was discharged from the army.”
She began to sob. After several minutes she regained control and said, “I prayed for my husband’s salvation for years, believing God would save him. But right after he left you out of his car, on May 7th, he was killed in a head-on collision. I thought God had not answered my
prayer, and I stopped living for Him five years ago.” That day she recommitted her life to Christ.
Christians have a duty to share what they receive from Christ for free and that’s what Roger did. He led a soul to the kingdom of God. Have we done our bounded duty to our Lord? Easter is a good reminder for us Christians not only to live our faith, but also to share it with others.
Share your faith—-somebody needs it!
The devil is sneaky and the Bible warns us that the devil comes to kill, destroy and steal. People go through life challenges and often times they question whether God is powerful enough to resolve those challenges or not. They begin to doubt whether God understands their situation or He’s too busy. Perhaps, you are dealing with so many challenges and issues in your personal life and it seems as if God is nowhere to be found. Hence, you begin to doubt your faith in God as if you’ve done something wrong and God is punishing you. Let me give one answer, these situations are not from God. Satan’s priority is to disturb your joy so that you can blame God. If Satan can take away your joy, there will be no love, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, peace, and gentleness. Thereby, our battle in life begins with joy because without it, we are doomed. Joy is the highest achievement one must attain.
Jean (made up name for the sake of privacy) has been a very troubled person since she was young. She thought that happiness comes from beating up people and robbing them. Jean appeared to be a very strong person on the outside and oftentimes people used to be intimidated by her everywhere she went. Although my wife and I knew about her troubled behaviors, we helped her and her family when times were difficult for her. We supported her when she lost one of her children; we visited her when she was in jail, we invited her and her family to our home when they didn’t have a place to stay etc. So, she became very close to us.
Unfortunately, Jean and her sister beat up a security guard and she had to spent a couple of months in jail. She came out of jail and my wife and I decided to visit her on Valentine’s day. She has been attending counseling sessions and some other meetings. To say the least, I was shocked when I saw her on Valentine’s Day because she was not the same person. She used to say bad things about herself and other people all the time, but she didn’t do that on that day. In fact, here is what she said: “I have been living a lie. I have been lying to myself because I did everything just to make my parents happy, and my life was miserable. I’ve realized that they will never be happy no matter what I do.” She continues “Now, I don’t want to live that kind of life. I want to have joy and not all this short term happiness just to make my parents happy.” Apparently, she had to make her parents happy and whatever she did was not good enough and to escape criticism and contempt from her parents, violence became her tool to experience joy.
Happiness is an emotion; it is a feeling one gets when things are going their way, and it comes and goes. Joy on the other hand is a God given gift and it can only be found when we have a relationship with God. This truth is revealed when we know that God loves us. We don’t need other people’s opinion to experience joy. God has freely given joy to us through Jesus Christ and no one can take that away from us. We read in John 15:9-11 “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Live within my love. When you obey me you are living in my love, just as I obey my Father and live in his love. I have told you this so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your cup of joy will overflow!”